Unconditional Self-Love in Business: How Loving Yourself Transforms Your Offers, Clients, and Confidence (with Lisa Andria)
Building, marketing, and selling offers in an online business can feel like a constant test of your worth. When a launch does not go as planned, a sales page does not convert, or a client conversation feels flat, it is very easy to make it all mean something about you: “I am not good enough. I am not cut out for this. No one wants what I have.”
In this episode of The OfferMojo Show, Lori Young sits down with emotional transformation coach Lisa Andria of Ladies Who Leap to explore what often sits underneath those spirals: a lack of unconditional self-love. Lisa shares her own journey from a 41 year corporate career in telecom to becoming a coach, the powerful NLP and timeline therapy work that revealed her core wound of “I do not love myself,” and how learning to love herself changed everything. Together, Lori and Lisa dive into how self-love shapes your relationship with your offers, your ability to sell, and the way you ride the inevitable waves of business and life.
Key Takeaways
Lack of self-love is often the root issue.
For many women, the real problem underneath people pleasing, imposter syndrome, and overgiving is not strategy. It is the unconscious belief, “I do not love myself” or “I am not enough.”
Your body will tell you when something is off.
Lisa’s wake up call came from her dentist, who bluntly told her she was headed toward a heart attack if she did not change her stress-filled work life. Emotional misalignment eventually shows up in the body.
Shifting roles can lower stress and highlight your real gifts.
When Lisa moved from a high pressure sales role into a support position, her income dipped but her nervous system calmed. That quieted space helped her realize that her true strengths were listening, building trust, and supporting people.
Timeline work can reveal deep rooted beliefs.
Through NLP and mental and emotional release work, Lisa traced patterns back to early life experiences that shaped her unconscious beliefs about herself.
Self-criticism keeps you stuck, while self-compassion keeps you learning.
Loving yourself unconditionally does not mean you never mess up. It means you see mistakes as information and lessons, not proof that you are broken.
Your offers need your heart, not just your head.
A strong offer is not only well structured. It needs to feel aligned with your values and the way you genuinely want to support clients. If your self belief is shaky, your messaging and your sales conversations usually feel shaky too.
“Nobody is buying” is a story, not a fact.
Thoughts such as “No one wants to buy from me” are limiting beliefs, not objective truth. If you repeat them often enough, your unconscious mind will look for evidence to back them up.
You cannot have a high vibe every day, but you can be aware.
You are human. You will have low days. The work is in noticing when you are spiraling, pausing, and choosing a kinder thought or a supportive action.
Support is part of growth, not a sign of failure.
Whether it is a coach, therapist, or trusted friend, having someone who can remind you who you are when you forget is a powerful way to stay grounded.
Self-love is a daily practice.
From mirror work to affirmations to reframing negative thoughts, building an unconditional relationship with yourself is something you cultivate over time, not a single one time breakthrough.
Notable Quotes
“When you unlock the fact that if you love yourself, and I always add unconditionally, then all of the other issues that you have about yourself unlock.” Lisa Andria
“If you keep thinking the negative thoughts, they are going to keep happening. Your unconscious mind wants to protect you and prove you right.” Lisa Andria
“We should love ourselves unconditionally. That means imperfections and all, and I like to say, warts and all.” Lisa Andria
“It is so easy to point the finger at ourselves and say, there must be something wrong with me. Most of the time, that is not the case.” Lori Young
“Missed expectations are opportunities gained. What you thought you wanted may fall away to make room for something that is actually more aligned for you.” Lisa Andria
“What needs to be true about yourself to be someone who believes you can be good in your business?” Lisa Andria
“I want to love all parts of me, the parts I like and the parts I do not, because those parts are usually just afraid and need attention.” Lori Young
Guest Bio – Lisa Andria
Lisa Andria is an emotional transformation coach and the founder of Ladies Who Leap coaching. After a 41 year career in the corporate telecom world left her physically depleted and emotionally stressed, a wake up call from her dentist pushed her to reimagine her life. Through studying NLP and mental and emotional release work, Lisa went on her own deep healing journey and discovered a core truth: she did not truly love herself.
Now, through her Power Elite program, Lisa guides women through a unique transformation process to release emotional clutter from the unconscious mind, become more self aware, and take aligned action toward their dream life. She also hosts the Ladies Who Leap podcast and leads a supportive online community of women inside her private Facebook group, Ladies Who Leap Club.
Website: https://www.ladieswholeap.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisaacoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladieswholeap
Free Set of Videos: https://leapwithconfidence.com
Host Bio – Lori Young
Lori Young is a certified business coach and offer strategist for coaches, subject matter experts, and thought leaders. As the creator and host of The OfferMojo Show, she blends soul aligned strategy with holistic, energetic alignment to help service based entrepreneurs design, refine, and sell offers that feel like a full body yes. Lori’s work centers on clarity, confidence, and building offer ecosystems that honor both the business and the human at the center of it.
OfferMojo Show Podcast: https://pod.link/1780382092
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/offer_magician
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/onamissionbrands
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@onamissionbrands
Recap of the Episode
What do you do when your offers are not converting, clients are not buying, and your launches feel flat? Most business owners immediately look outward at the strategy, the pricing, the funnel, or the copy. In this conversation with emotional transformation coach Lisa Andria, the attention turns inward instead, toward the relationship you have with yourself and how deeply you actually love and trust who you are.
Lisa did not arrive at this work through a neat, linear path. She spent 41 years in corporate telecom, climbing, striving, and shape shifting in order to be likable and successful. As a young girl with thick glasses and a bad haircut, she learned early that fitting in meant becoming whoever people wanted her to be. Over time, the stress of a high pressure sales career began to show up in her body. Her longtime dentist finally looked at her and told her plainly that if she did not change something, she was heading toward a heart attack. That blunt moment forced her to pause and listen.
She took a sabbatical, demoted herself from an account manager role into a support role, and traded some income for emotional relief. In that quieter chapter, she discovered life coaching, then NLP, and eventually mental and emotional release work. During intensive training, Lisa found herself in a breakthrough session, sharing her childhood and old patterns, when a clear inner statement surfaced: “You do not love yourself.” Whispering those words out loud felt shameful and raw. It seemed like everyone else had somehow figured out self-love except her. Naming it, however, turned into the key that opened everything else.
From that point forward, Lisa began noticing how the absence of self-love had shaped her life. People pleasing, imposter syndrome, a belief that no one would like her if she was truly herself, and a deep resistance to vulnerability were all rooted in that one core wound. Now she sees the same pattern in the women she works with. In about nine out of ten breakthrough sessions, the real issue is not lack of skill or drive. It is some version of “I do not love myself,” “I am not enough,” or “I should not have been born.”
This is exactly where personal healing and business strategy intersect. If you do not love and trust yourself, you will struggle to fully trust your offers. In a challenging market, when buyers are more cautious, it is easy to let every “no” become a story about your worth. Thoughts like “No one wants to buy from me” feel factual, but in reality they are beliefs that your unconscious mind will then try to confirm by filtering your experience through that lens.
Lori shares a fresh example from her own business: a summit interview that, in her view, simply did not flow. Even though she knows offers deeply and had notes ready, she got off the call with a harsh inner critic saying she bombed it. The self-love work does not ask her to pretend the experience was perfect. Instead, it invites her to pause and say, “Maybe I did not show up the way I wanted. I can forgive myself. I still know I am excellent at what I do. I can learn from this and adjust next time.” The shift from self attack to self compassion is the heart of unconditional self-love.
Lisa offers a simple image for those spirals. When you feel stuck in negative thoughts, imagine a hose that is spraying out negativity. Your job is to “plug the hose.” Become aware of what you are thinking and then consciously reframe it. Instead of “I am terrible at podcast interviews,” you might say, “I am learning how to show up more powerfully in interviews, and I already know I teach valuable, solid content.” When you repeat a more loving thought, your unconscious mind has something new to work with.
This reframing is just as important when offers are not selling the way you hoped. It is tempting to burn everything down, pivot to a completely new offer, or decide that the lack of sales means you are not cut out for this. Lisa invites you to slow down and ask different questions. Is the offer out of alignment with your values and the way you genuinely want to serve? Or is it that you do not fully trust yourself or your ability to communicate its value? A heart centered offer that grows out of your true gifts lands very differently from an offer designed only to chase trends.
Life also adds its own weight, on top of business. Lori mentions the heaviness many business owners feel in the midst of local and global crises, and how hard it can be to stay focused on content creation and visibility when the world feels unstable. Lisa does not pretend that we can be completely positive all the time. Instead, she emphasizes awareness and support. Notice when your energy is low. Reach out to someone who can reflect your worth back to you. And remember that if you are in a relatively grounded place, your steady presence is a contribution to the people around you.
Underneath the tactics and practices is a deeper spiritual trust. Lori shares her experience with a client who raved about their work together and seemed ready to move into a bigger project, then suddenly disappeared and stopped responding. After a short spiral of “What did I do wrong?” she chose to believe that this was a form of protection and redirection. Perhaps her thoughtful, deep process was not actually a match for this client’s pace. Perhaps there is another client who is more aligned. Self-love allowed her to release the idea that she was the problem and move forward without closing her heart.
The episode closes with very simple daily practices. Start your morning by looking into your own eyes in the mirror and saying, “I love you. I believe in you. I trust you.” Catch yourself when you slide into harsh self-talk, write down the negative thought, and turn it into a more supportive affirmation. Most importantly, give yourself permission to get help. Whether it is a coach like Lisa, a business mentor like Lori, or a therapist, you do not have to carry all of your emotional baggage by yourself. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally, your offers, your clients, and the way you move through business all begin to change.
